Jul 24, 2010
Do you think there are some universal standards for love? Like some requirements in a relationship? Surely we could all agree that without communication and trust, there is no relationship. Yet it’s easily agreeable that there are couples each day who get ready for work in the morning, miserable. They go to work without saying words. There’s the couple who, despite the continuous infidelity on one partners part of which they’re well aware, continue to swear their undying love and renewed commitment, unable to trust the other person again no matter how many times they swear they will. Do we as a population settle out of fear? We settle for jobs, for love, for life. All I can say for sure is that maybe fairytales don’t exist but happiness does. If you’re happy with what you’ve got, no matter how little how much it is, than don’t let anyone or anything allow you to question that. If you can push through the tough days and still wake up the next day with a smile and a badge of courage, I assure you that this life is a beautiful one, even on the days it doesn’t seem that way. I think we’ve become so caught up in our mundane everyday life that we forget that we truly deserve happiness…we can strive for it, we can ask for it--but the bottom line is don’t rely on someone else to give it to you. I want the kind of love that you wake up each day thanking your lucky stars that you’re waking up a hot mess next to the person who knows you better than you know yourself. The person who even when you’re arguing with them makes you smile on the inside even while you’re trying to seem angry on the outside. The person who can look at you across the room and make you coil with heat on the inside, your breath catching in your throat, your heart hammering in your chest. The person who after a long atrocious day makes you breathe a little easier, makes you believe it’s going to get better. If you think about the most important day of your life, who do you want standing next to you? Sometimes we’re so busy looking before we leap that we get too afraid of heights to ever take the plunge.